Rapid technological advances, heavy use of social media, an uncertain economy and more vaguely defined relationship roles are having the paradoxical effect of causing people to become increasingly self-absorbed, damaging the very community they seek to connect with, argues a Jacksonville University sociology professor in a provocative new book.
The result? We are a nation beset by escalating anxiety, which is exacerbated by a psychotherapy and pharmacology tag-team that encourages adapting to circumstances rather than changing them.
In “Society Explained” (Rowman & Littlefield 2014), which is earning praise for its engaging approach, Dr. Nathan Rousseau offers a fascinating probe, through personal examples and historical perspective, of the trends affecting how we create and maintain our most vital relationships.
“Global competition, the rapid rate of change, the need to make a buck, the inability to cut through the 24/7 media clutter, have made most Americans withdraw from acting in ways that demonstrate a real concern about the future of the country,” he said. “Most Americans have turned inward, in part, because when they look outward, they feel futile to effect change about the things that really matter: sense of control in intimate relationships, source of income and where they live and for how long.”
This prevents people from seeing how they affect others, how others affect them and how this collective turn inward is the cause of many social problems, Rousseau argues.
“The driving force for people turning inward is not about acquiring greater self-understanding; it is about searching for a place that feels safe and familiar.”
In engaging, down-to-earth chapter passages, Rousseau details some of the trends affecting our ability to effectively engage with one another. Just a few examples from Society Explained:
“As the world has been getting smaller, information overload more common, and more of the burden for processing ideas placed upon the individual, the individual has had no place to go other than inward in order to feel a sense of stability and security. The result is a world of relative beliefs and practices, where each person can believe as s/he pleases, yet at the same time, can never feel that the environment in which s/he lives is predictable and safe.”
“In the past 40 years roles in the home have changed in important ways that roles in the workplace have not. Roles at home have become more subject to negotiation, which has had the effect of making them both more egalitarian and ambiguous. Modern couples struggle to make sense of roles that have lost their meaning, and sometimes a clearly defined role at work just requires a lot less effort.”
“Sexual liberation turned out to be less fun and more work than many expected. Talking about sex rather than talking about having sex turned out to be two different things. Rather than working through issues with the same person, it increasingly seemed simpler to more and more people to move on.”
A member of the boomer generation, Rousseau said he was personally motivated to research and write Society Explained because he found something missing in the constant drumbeat of advice advocating introspection to reach the end goal of loving oneself.
“Some of the most introspective people are also the most insensitive people when it comes to relationships,” he said. “I realized after studying psychology for many years that what was missing in psychology was other people – how I affect others and how others affect me. As a result, I turned to sociology. Based upon years of observation and study, I have written a book about relationships. Specifically, how relationships in America have changed over the past 40 years.”